So I've promised myself to write a new blog everyday, about a new topic each day.. And today I feel I should cover a rather broad subject matter 'The Ex Boyfriend' and 'The Breakup'.

We all have them.. (Unless your a heterosexual guy - in which case why are you reading this? Time to question your sexuality me thinks...), and they cause us all rather a lot of bother. Do we remain friends? Do I still have sex with him? Do I scream and holla at him? Do I trash his car/clothes/flat/shoes? Well, the answer to this comes down to the break up. Did it fizzle out over time leaving us both depressed? Did it end with my finding him in bed with someone else? Did it end with him [god forbid] ending things with me? The way we behave with our ex boyfriends all depends on the break up..

Take one of my exes for an example.. We were together for several months, and eventually, I felt the need to break up with him as I felt rather trapped. He wanted to get married and control every aspect of my life.. The entire time I was thinking Jeeze I'm not even anywhere near 18 yet! So this relationship ended in an inevitable slanging match, resulting in the dumpee stalking the dumper.. Not such a good break up.

But then again there ARE some great break ups where you find its not working out and you BOTH agree you want to be friends, I've had just one of these and I've got to say they are by far the best, you don't get as remotely hurt as you do normally, and you get to keep an awesome guy (well you must have thought he was awesome - else why'd you date him??) as a friend.

However.. The mutual split also has its problems.. It can leave you thinking, ''Wow what a great break u..Hang on..Did I just make a huge mistake'' followed by you seeing your boyfriend-turnt-ex-turnt-pal with his NEW girlfriend..which can be crushing.

So back on track..Ex boyfriends.. Some can be awesome as your friendship may have a better dynamic than your relationship, and some can be heart-wrenchingly difficult, and then theres the ones that leave you fuming and standing out in the middle of the street and he drives away..

Is there such a thing as a HEALTHY break up and a good ex boyfriend?

Maybe.. However they are an elusive pair, and you may get one but not necessarily the other, you may have a brilliant break up, but the injured party may be you ex, and may not wish to remain friends. Or you may have a terrible break up, and months later discover a friend in the other party.